As in the Star Wars Universe, relationships are like battlefields, with danger lurking around every corner. To be successful, you must carefully navigate a landscape littered with minefields and hope you are strengthened by the alliance. Choose wisely, because happiness depends on how well you vet a future partner.
What I have learned is to trust instincts and put away any Hollywood notions of finding the perfect love. Useful questions: (1) What do I get out of the relationship? (2) What do they get out of the relationship? (3) How do we prefer to run our lives? (4) Are there any habits and past or present issues which will prevent us from being suitable/viable partners?
A quirky thing about myself is that I was raised by a loving family that is as traditional as a family can be. My parents have been married for over 50 years. Everyone, except for me, currently live on the same land that my great grandfather once did. I come from a traditional environment, which has instilled a set of values I hold dear.
Which is why I tend to attract the opposite (JIMBO)
What I have learned the hard way is that no good comes from a marriage of unequals. If they don't share your core values, the relationship will eventually bite the dust. I am fully confident that there is nothing inherently wrong with me as a partner. Rather, it's more to do with them and how they choose to manage their life.
While I find comfort in stability and routine, some revel in chaos and chance encounters. They stay perpetually thirsty
always chasing down unresolved deep-seeded need(s) from their past. Sorry, but jumping through wormholes half-crocked with a blurred sense of reality is not my preferred state of mind.
I wish I could let myself go, like Jimbo
, and be an obese trailer park slut on Jerry Springer waiting for paternity tests, but I just can't. I am exactly what I want to be: a decent and good person. I'd like to thank my family for instilling those values.
Not bad for a 44 year old, eh?
In conclusion, all of us conduct our lives in a way that best suites us. I feel that I have already WON in life, being exactly where I want to be. If someone cannot fit into it, then they have their own demons to pursue. Keep looking and good luck!